Other People's Sexual Baggage

I’d have to say that the most difficult thing about talking about sex in public is dealing with the expectations of others.  This isn’t the same thing as “caring what other people think.”  Whether you care or not, if you’re putting something out in the world about sex people are going to approach it through the multiple filters of experience, prejudice, and ignorance.  What makes doing this with sex different than other topics is that people usually deny those filters exist and they almost always feel entitled to project on to you their expectations.  It won’t ever stop me from doing what I do, but it does get one down now and then.  ~ Cory

Someone forward you this email? No Sweat! Sign up here to get your own If you're having trouble viewing this email, click here Follow Us Other People's Sexual Baggage I’d have to say that the most difficult thing about talking about sex in public is dealing with the expectations of others.  This isn’t the same thing as “caring what other people think.”  Whether you care or not, if you’re putting something out in the world about sex people are going to approach it through the multiple filters of experience, prejudice, and ignorance.  What makes doing this with sex different than other topics is that people usually deny those filters exist and they almost always feel entitled to project on to you their expectations.  It won’t ever stop me from doing what I do, but it does get one down now and then.  ~ Cory Cory Silverberg Sexuality Expert Carrying Other People's Sexual Baggage   As soon as you take a risk and speak your mind about sex this will happen.  Someone will respond to what your saying, clearly having misunderstood, but just as clearly believing they know what you mean and can prove you wrong.  It may be the price you pay for making a difference, but your shoulders sure get tired after a while.   READ NOW Getting Good at Sex Talk   Talking about sex can feel like wearing a lot more than your heart on your sleeve.  As a result many of us don’t even try.  I believe that if on one day everyone committed to talking about sex with three people, something magical would happen.  The first step to getting better at talking about sex is figuring out why it’s so hard for you in the first place. READ NOW Should You Have Sex With Your Ex?   There's no right or wrong answer for everyone to this question. But there is a right answer for you, right now. READ NOW Know Thyself: Writing Your Own Sex History   I don’t believe you have to love yourself before you can feel loved by others, but I do think when it comes to sex talk you have to be willing to put your money where your mouth is (safer sex tip:  wash the money first).  If you want anyone in your life to talk about sex with you, you need to have a safe and comfortable ear for them to bend.  Knowing yourself a bit better is one good way to flex those ear muscles. READ NOW Featured Articles • Are You Letting Your Kids Wreck Your Marriage? • Meet Tennis Legend and Women's Rights Activist Billie Jean King • Andy Murray's Tennis Coach • 4 Scary Facts about Dabbing. It's Not Just a Dance. • Should You Leave Your Husband If He Cheated? • Is Your Marriage in Desperate Need of Some TLC? • Martina Finds Love--Marries Julia Lemigova • Inside Garth Brooks' Marriage to Trisha Yearwood Advertisement About Sexuality  |  Follow Us You are receiving this newsletter because you subscribed to the Sexuality newsletter. If you wish to unsubscribe, please click here 1500 Broadway, 6th Floor, New York, NY, 10036 © 2015 About.com - All rights reserved. Privacy Policy.